Wednesday, 22 August 2012

The Anti-Wedding Anniversary Day......

Today would have been my 26th wedding anniversary.I didn't make it that far, I ran away. Today brings mixed feelings, huge grief for what I have lost, and massive strength from what I have gained.
I cannot bring myself to think about the losses, therapy, psychology etc. etc. cannot bring me to discuss or think about them, I know where I go when the losses come to me, and it is not a good, safe place to be, you know where I go, Police cell, hospital bed, the depths of the pit of doom.
But, what have I gained? I guess that now, when I can combat the internal battle, that I am safe now. I choose my friends carefully, will be more carefully after I have been on the course the Police have got planned for me, I can't remember what it is called, but it is to make me more aware of abusive behaviours, what is right, what isn't right within a relationship, friendship, lovers etc., so that I can see who is being abusive before it becomes a criminal offence I guess.. Oh it is called 'Pattern Changing', and will apparently make me have more self esteem and confidence, rock on that sounds good.
So, today is full of mixed emotions. Have decided that instead of having another rotten day, I will make today my 'anti-anniversary day', and go and have fun. The sun is sunny, the bunny is happy, I will go to the Barbican and have a womble around the charity shops and find some fabric to make an anti-anniversary patchwork cushion. Nikkinoccynoo has lent me her sewing machine, so I will have a go, and make something positive and punchable! Heh heh heh, oh yes, punchable!


Anonymous said...

Hi, a lot of us have anti-anniversary days. My wedding was a bit of a non-event so I try to make the anti-anniversary day the same. Its good to be out among people, even if you don't know them. BUT I do celebrate my freedom day. Actually I have two, the day I ran away and the day the divorce came through. Although I am hoping these dates along with the memory of the ex will fade with time. Lxx

Isabelle Nuts said...

Hello L, thank you. It is good to know that I am not the only person who ran away, and very uplifting to read of your freedom days, I hadn't thought of it like that,but I will from now onwards.
Much love x

Anonymous said...

I loved my wedding, loved being married and the divorce was the best thing too (almost seven years to the day we got married - one helluva n itch).
Now, nearly two years on ( this bank holiday weekend) I am loving being my own person again. Exploring new ideas, places and people, it's exciting, a little bit scary but I feel alive. : )